Hi everyone, my name is Tessa and I am Connecticut’s 2026 Kid Governor. My platform is Everyone Belongs and it focuses on inclusion for students with disabilities. I hope that as Kid Governor I will be able to help make this state a better place.
As I mentioned in my March blog post, one important thing you can do to help make sure kids with disabilities feel included is to be an ally. Being an ally means you should make sure you aren’t excluding or ignoring someone. You might not notice when you do it, but put yourself in their shoes. You may have heard that expression many times, but have you ever really stopped to think about what it means? How would it feel if you were in their position, getting ignored? Sometimes you could make a kid happy just by asking, “How was your weekend?” That’s all it takes. You don’t have to constantly hover over them, you can just acknowledge that they have feelings, the same as you. So, remember to be an ally, not a bully.


Another way you could be an ally is to speak up if others are bullying someone. This is important because it’s almost as bad if you let the bullying happen and don’t step in. Even if it’s your best friend, you should still stand up to them. Also, don’t be afraid to tell a teacher, parent, or trusted adult when you observe bullying. You might be called a tattletale, but if it is hurting someone – physically or emotionally – it’s worth it.
If you are experiencing bullying or exclusion, again, don’t be afraid to tell someone. You’ll feel better. Don’t worry. Usually, bullies have anger or sadness themselves and may not know how to deal with those feelings. They might bottle them up or let them out at others. Neither way addresses the problem. Those feelings aren’t an excuse for lashing out at others, however.
If you are a bully, I advise talking to a trusted adult, such as a school counselor or a therapist about what is happening. Letting your feelings out and telling someone can really help you understand why you are acting that way and help you stop bullying.
What all of this leads up to is that it’s better to be an ally.
I hope all of this helped you, bystanders, victims, and bullies alike. If you have questions or want to share an idea for a future blog post, please email me at Tessa@CT.KidGovernor.org.
Remember to be inclusive!
Theresa (Tessa) Hallinan
2026 Kid Governor
Green Acres Elementary School
North Haven







